A Marketer, Big Outside, Empty Inside

I was once dated a marketer. I though that was only his profession. He was so nice and persistent. More romantic than all the guys I have ever dated. Although I knew I should not date him, for several personal issues. I still ended up dating him. The way he fights his way in was just too sweet to ignore.

Days gone by, we had been dating for a year. The first six months was quite a happy journey, but the rest...

I finally knew what his personality really is. The ambitious charisma that I admire at first was just a boast from someone who would not do the hard work. One by one, his lies are revealed, and although I still had deep feelings for him, I tried to get away from the situation.

The beautiful heart that I admire when he saw poor people was just words. He never put an act on things that he said. I know this, because he is also a public figure in some small scale. He just posted his feelings toward poor people to gain symphaty from others who knows him. And the basic things are, if you can not love the people around you who is in need (family), how exactly are you going to love the people that you don't even know. Or have the passion to do it?

Some people may asked me, how do you know that? Well, it's quite simple. This is one of the things that I learned the hard way. Which causes my heart to be broken into pieces. If you want to know whether some people are real or not, just pay attention to what he did and said. Are they the same? 

If some people said that you should pay attention to poor kids, and all he does in most of his life is to earn money from himself and buy all the luxury just for him, GO FIGURE!

Just like the fact that he said he always love me and will fight for us to be together. Well you know how that one lasts :)

So, why did I say A Marketer, Big Outside, Empty Inside? Is all marketer always like that? Not always, but you should be careful. The habits tend to absorb deep inside, especially if he doesn't have anything to do aside of marketing. And how to differentiate is very simple, just like what I told you above.

I just wanted to write this, so that you will be careful with whom do you give your heart to.  And don't let the feelings decide first. Analyze the situation before you decided to enter the relationship, because trust me getting out is far harder than getting in.

When you find yourself in that situation, GET OUT! RUN if you have to. Because he does not change the first time he met you, then he will never change. Once a liar always a liar. And don't compromise, because, know this, You Deserve Better

Have a nice day ladies...

A real man, does he still exists?

A while ago I watched a serial called Terra Nova. A booming serials at that time, have been seeing the advertisement on Fox so many times that I remember it right away. The serial is about earth's conditions which got so polluted that man kind invented a time machine to move some of the people in earth 85 million years ago. Where the air is still fresh and the dinosaur are all alive. A fresh start.

People are being ruled with an old fashioned rules, and there was this guy in military suits that falls in love with the new girl. The rule is to address the girl's father about his intention and asked the girl politely for permission to date her. Pretty old fashioned, don't you think?

Then I take a look at how people do these days. They just do everything instantly. There's just no romance anymore. As we all know then, everything leads to intimate relationship with no strings attached. And when something goes wrong, instead of fixing the relationship they choose to leave it and find a new one. Because it is simply easier to do so. In fact, they are all prepared to take off whenever things get a little uncomfortable.

Not being hard on the gender, but the situation is very beneficial to men. Because most of them need short intimate relationship more then long term relationship. While for women, it's getting harder and harder on them to find someone who wants a long term relationship. They go through heartbreak after heartbreak looking for those who is willing to share a lifetime with them.

The scene in the serial also reviewed how the man wanted to know what the girl had been through throughout the day. I mean really interested in listening to the girl. How many of us, especially married women, tell their spouse about their day and get a cold response most of the time? :)

Not only the man is no longer interested in what the woman got to say, but also sometimes, the man just don't give a damn. Hoping deep inside that the woman will stop talking and let him enjoy the rest of the afternoon in silence doing things that he enjoyed. I bet most of you will agree with me, men and women. 

A real man, a man who takes our hand and promises to protect us as long as he lives. Who is interested in our activitiy on a daily basis and wanting to be by our side most of the time. Who loves to share details in his life with us and craving for us to do the same.... Does he really exists?

I have no idea...

To those of you who already have this kind of man by your side, love and cherish him throughout your life. Because they are a very very rare ...